Caring Healthily: Check your parameters

 Do you ever wonder if you care too much? Or maybe care too little? 

The key in caring is to know when to care.  If you care too much, you'll hinder yourself from your own needs and maybe even growth. Caring too much leads to worry and unneccessary thinking. A complete waste of your time. If you care too little, you may miss out on some opportunities and growth in your life. You also may be dealing with some issues in your life that's caused you to not care anymore and so you may need to find a way to trust again or give things a chance and learn how to understand and squash these issues. It may sound far-fetched, but I promise, with time, issues can heal and fade away just like scars do. So finding that balance is key.

Step #1: LISTEN

Over the years I've learned how to slow down a lot. Slow down my thinking, slow down my words, and slow down my actions. Through much self control I've learned a lot because I started to understand that listening is more important. Listening and understanding is far more useful. Speaking when appropriate is almost an art. It's easy to spew out what we're thinking in our minds. Especially now a days. Speaking about every little thought instead of thinking about them first has become second nature. This can be very bad for you. Especially when emotions are there, and you haven't taken a second to just...think. If we're actively listening to somebody, we can hear the emotions, delight, concerns and even determine truth in what people are saying. These are clues that only an active listener is able to discern. Life's been way more meaningful since I've started to listen more than speak. I've learned a lot about the environment around me, and the people that are in it. Character in people stand out like a sore thumb and it's helped me to understand the world around me better. 

So the first thing we want to take into consideration when we are spending time to care about something or a situation is to listen, we need to hear out the matter. This will lead to full understanding of the situation and give you insight on how much attention the circumstance or person needs. If you are carefully listening, you will know whether if you need to give the matter any or much attention at all. 

It's important to listen to their choice of words, tone of voice and what's being said. You'll also want to look out for any patterns and unusual behavior and comments. Most people think that you will not know the difference, or they most likely are just not thinking at all. Pay close attention. You will SEE. This will let you know how much energy you should put into it. 

You see the act of caring is an expense. The act of caring are like dollars that your heart produce. You do not want to spend it all on things that are useless. So be wise and be careful on what you spend it all on. Listening is the first step to a happier and healthier life.

Step #2: SIFT

Caring too much is taxing. To get to the bottom of caring too much is to sift or filter these things that concern you. You need to ask yourself if these things really matter to you or if they will impact you in a bad way; or if they're even true in some cases. Sometimes we are put in situations where problems seem real until we actually sift out the matter. That means slowing down. Taking the time to stop and think about things. In doing this, you will find out truths and false presumptions. As time passes, you will get better at determining, and won't actually need to stop and think much anymore, you'll just start to know right away through life experience. So take the time to sift and ditch the worries for good!

Step #3: LET GO

The hardest part may be letting go. Let go of problems that are not yours. Sometimes we go out of our way more to hold on to a problem than to simply just let it go. Trust me, it's not worth it. Your mental health will deteriorate. It is unhealthy. This is the part where people may think they need a downer such as weed or CBD edibles to feel more care free. Then what happens when you run out of that? You'll run out of yourself too. The power is really within YOU to let go. You don't need to go out of your way to take something to let go. You are stronger than you think! 

Take a breather and: 

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